Friday, September 02, 2005


Here is my REAL legacy--my three incredible, beautiful, and beloved daughters--Camille, Carissa, and Christina. They are the most important part of me and my life going into the future.

On the left is Camille. By the age of 13, she'd won a statewide piano competition (against older and more experienced players) in Arkansas. At 16, she traveled with a teen team across India to lay the foundation for an orphanage dormitory outside Vijayawada, and they did it the old-fashioned way--with only hand tools. It was a trip filled with a great deal of physical and emotional hardship, including the death of a team member as they traveled across the sub-continent by train.

Camille graduated from the Eastman School of Music in vocal performance and music education in the spring of 2004. In August of that year, she was married to a classical trumpet player. She and her husband currently live in Bremen, Germany where they both continue to study, and he has a job with the orchestra.

(So far, my favorites of her performances have been as Maria from West Side Story and as Mabel, the love interest in Gilbert and Sullivan's Pirates of Penzance).

Carissa, my middle daughter, is on the far right. She is also an accomplished pianist. (Both she and Camille taught piano to a stable of students as the sole apprentice under Dr. June Chow-Tyne for their after school jobs in high school). Carissa was also an award winning member of a high school academic decathalon team that ranked in the top 20 teams in the nation.

In her Senior year in a 3,000 member high school, she was designated a National Merit Scholar--a nationwide honor based on academic achievement. Carissa is currently a Junior at Wheaton College in the Chicago area.

Christina (in the middle) is my youngest. Christina's my Tigger. All three of my daughters are spunky young women, but I think Christina got a double portion.

In August, she started her Senior year of high school--just less than 6 weeks after having two spinal surgeries in June--one, quite extensive. I believe in some ways, Christina's the most competitive of the three. It isn't yet apparent where her drive will take her, but she will undoubtedly follow her own path when she finds it with verve and ambition.

The most amazing thing about Christina is her personal courage in the face of adversity. In the past four years, she's had 5 spinal surgeries. All have been painful, and some recoveries have been very difficult. Through it all, she's never really complained nor asked why this was happening to her. I'm humbled by her spirit.

So... This is the space where I intend to write down some of the thoughts and principles that have been important to me through my life--and which have given comfort and guidance in times of trouble.

It's also where I will probably write down incidents and reminisces from my life... and from theirs--the personal memories and perspectives that I want to preserve for them.

They are MY legacy, but this is my legacy to THEM.

LEGACY

As the first installment of my legacy to you, my daughters, I leave you two simple thoughts.

The first is a simple bit of doggerel by Robert Louis Stevenson:

Life is so filled with a number of things,
I'm sure we should all be as happy as kings.


That short verse has served as a motto for me--in fact, I think I was living my life that way from nearly my earliest childhood. I was always curious, and as you all know, I still am!

It's funny, though, I always remembered the poem slightly wrong, but I like my version even better than Stevenson's original. :-)

Life is so filled with wonderful things,
I'm sure we should all be as happy as kings.


The second thought I want to leave with you in this first installment of my legacy to you is the verse from the Bible that has come back to me over and over and over in the last 7 years. You girls know what all's gone on. I can only tell you that God has sustained me throughout that time... and for many years earlier too--both in the sense of his presence and in the friendship and care of his people.

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, and faithful in prayer.
Romans 12:12


There are many other good--and important--thoughts all round those verses, and I'm tempted to put them in with this passage too, but I decided against it because these three thoughts were central and persistent encouragement through many very very dark times.

And with that thought, I will close this post. In days to come, I intend to add other things to the legacy I wish to leave you. I love the three of you very, very much.

Dad

4 Comments:

Blogger Dale Savage said...

Thanks for the kind words, Happy. I think friendship between dads and daughters is probably a much different thing than with moms.

Raising them the last several years has been one of the great joys and adventures of my life.

Now that I'm down to the youngest at home, and I'm thinking about the empty nest to come, I'm not too sure I like the idea! LOL :-)

And, of course, you are right. The friendship of our adult children is a gift beyond measure.

It's really nice to see them out in the world and think, "There's someone I really like."

8:40 AM, September 03, 2005  
Blogger heiresschild said...

good morning dale, what a beautiful tribute -- very thought provoking. there's nothing like a father's love. that's something i never experienced, but i have experienced the love of my Heavenly Father. i can't ever have that experience with a natural father, but i do experience those treasures with my spiritual Father.

i have one daughter, who is very close to me even though she's now married and expecting her first child, which is a daughter. ...and the cycle goes on.

you're right, friendship between a father and daughter, and mother and daughter is different, but i believe both are needed. the nurturing and love from each parent is similiar, yet different. and the fathers, i believe, set the foundation for the kind of men the daughters will look for and eventually marry.

i had my daughter with me for 25 years before she moved away and married. and now to see her about to start her own family, applying the same values she was brought up in is such a blessing, and a joy to watch.

i'm glad u've gotten to experience the joys of raising 3 beautiful daughters. even though 2 are no longer living at home, u always have the beautiful memories.


sylvia

7:21 AM, September 04, 2005  
Blogger Canadian Bloggette said...

hey Dale,
Tis I...the wild and wacky Canajun!!
Thank you for your wonderful kind words...can't believe you have been under that clock, bettcha no full moon though... eh??!! Six degrees of seperation...n'est pas??
I also have three incredible, brilliant, beautiful daughters....if you care to share your email address i will share my Legacies with you! How is that for a proposition??
Cheryl xox

11:31 PM, September 26, 2005  
Blogger Belizegial said...

Dale, I meant to come over here to post for sometime but keep missing the chance when I do get to come on the blogs. I join my fellow bloggettes in commending your legacy to your three daughters.

You are a rare treasure indeed as many fathers falter in their duty toward their children.

Your children are your true legacy and will reflect your spirituality, values and worthiness no matter where they go throughout this world during their lifetime.

I will keep checking in on your and their progress.

4:24 PM, October 08, 2005  

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